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“Looks like Phelamanga to me, ” he said.

I know what you are thinking because I thought the same thing. What is Phelamanga? Or, since it was a text message –  what kind of a weird typo is that?

Sure enough (and since he is a college professor), it is a word – or maybe better put – a place.

Phelamanga is ” a place at the end of lies or where the lies finish. a place that lies beyond the imagination where truth prevails.”

It is used in the song – Scatterlings of Africa by Johnny Clegg

It has fast become one of my favorite words, and if you just drop it into conversation you will see who is actually paying attention!

It is a conversation starter.

It is a way to move through your day with new eyes.

It is a state of being to cultivate and live.

Try it.



Don’t make assumptions



In the last blog post I talked about the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

I was working with “Don’t make assumptions.”

I thought one day would do it. HA!  Two weeks later and I find daily how many times I assume.

When someone doesn’t respond to my text message.

When someone calls me and the message doesn’t make sense to me.

When a client looks at me a certain way.

When my dog looks at me a certain way!

GEEZ! When the dog gets involved in my messed up thinking I know I am in trouble.

So, I have worked hard to stop assuming. I have asked more questions and have actually outed some of my assumptions. I have communicated even when it was easier to just assume and go on my merry way.

This has led to a certain kind of vulnerability that can be scary but also enlivening.

I have felt more engaged in my life. I have noticed more. I have felt more. I have actually breathed more. It is amazing how much we all tend to hold our breath!

I even think the dog is looking at me differently!

How did you do?

Please feel free to get in touch and share your own stories.

P.S. I could not resist putting in a picture of our beautiful Delaware River. When all else fails, I hit the water!